It’s funny how a sense of happiness no matter how fleeting makes you change your whole perspective on things.
I’ve still felt low these last few weeks/months but there was something there, a hope, a realisation that I would be able to get out of this and soon.
After all, if I can like someone again, as more than a friend, and put myself out there to at least try. Regardless of how hopeless the situation was? Well, I have to take some positive from that don’t I?
I mean, it wasn’t all me, I was led to believe there could have been something more but I could have pulled or pushed her away, instead I tried.
A friend at work, a lady I work with, told me that she is proud of me for trying. She was surprised when she found out i tried because she didn’t think i would. She thought the fear from my last hurt would stop me.
So was I, if I’m honest.
The thing is, i don’t want to shut off. I spent 10 years hiding from my feelings, pushing people away, because I hated being hurt. Because it felt so painful.
Then along came my ex and showed me that yes it hurts, more than anything. But sometimes it’s worth it.
This current situation felt like something worthwhile, it felt worth the potential pain. And whilst I wish I didn’t feel like this, if something did/had come from this? It would be totally worth it. And that’s saying a lot. Because the sensitive side of me is taking this hard.
The overthinking side of my brain is trying to destroy any communication by just seeing the negatives. Hence taking space away from the situation and person involved.
It hurts because I’m not able to speak to the one person i care about most, even just as a friend.
But hopefully i can get these emotions settled and try friendship again.
I’m stifling the hope thats rising because i don’t want to get caught in that whirlpool, but the romantic side of me is making that hard too.
Im still so confused. And having my low mood today? Is just clouding my judgement even more.
Still, a positive is that i tried. I found someone i care about deeply and was brave enough to try. As much as it now hurts, i have to try and remember the momentary highs from it being partly reciprocated.
It is just a shame it wasn’t more.